After realising, that was when I started ask myself all kinds of questions and compare myself to the stereotypes of being gay. From this, I started to learn that I couldn't hide from who I really was and it was the midpoint of my 'journey'. While all of this, people use to come up to me and ask if I was gay, aggressively I'd answer "no". I use to be really homophobic because I thought that if I was homophobic it might just take the gay out of me. Thinking about been gay took me a long time to be comfortable with who I am (on what I call a journey- the process of realising and come out as gay). Then I started to remember having same sex crushes back in primary school (elementary). It was a time where I was extremely confused and I didn't know who I really was or understand why I was sexually attracted to boy. I always knew I was gay but I never really realised it until I was about 14 years old. To realise whether you're gay or lesbian takes a long time. :) Just breathe and give yourself the time and space to explore your feelings and thoughts. You might also seek out the LGBTQ community in some manner - online or in real life - to find support and information as you explore your feelings.īest wishes friend. You don't need to tell anyone until you are ready, and you don't need to label yourself unless it's what YOU want and it helps YOU.įinally, it may help to journal to sort out your feelings. It took me until my second year of college to figure out my sexuality. It's okay if it takes weeks, months, years to figure out.
What does it mean to them to be gay, lesbian or bisexual?įifth, give yourself time. Listen to the stories of people who identify these ways. Sexuality is often very fluid.įourth, it may help to read. So, don't worry too much about being "right" and finding the "right" answer. Even if you later identify differently, whatever you identify with right now is still valid. This can be both terrifying and liberating. Second, know that no one but yourself can find the answer! It's YOUR identity, and no parent, friend, mentor, or stranger can figure it out for you. Know that many, many, many people are also and have also asked themselves those very same questions. What a big question! First off, you are not alone in questioning your sexual orientation.